"if you aren't losing friends, you're not growing up"

This was a quote I recently read and it stood out to me. I have been experiencing this feeling lately, as you can tell by my posts. Friends will come and go but as you grow up and your life begins to change, you began to notice more and more friends turning their backs. This may be a hard bullet to bite at first but think about it this way, you are changing, you aren't the same person you use to be a couple months ago. Especially when you start a new chapter in life, like college or moving to a new city. You see more and more friends disappear from your world, but maybe it seems unfortunate at first but it just means they were not worthy of being a part of your journey. Friends will come and go, but just remember through this process it may be what is best for your life at that point. There are so many people in this world, the true friends will be there no matter what.

 

Not relating to this post, I will be starting a new blog soon because I want to start fresh and create a new atmosphere and gain more followers. I will post the new ones link when it is up incase I do have any readers, but I currently feel like this is just my personal posting spot.

 

Peace out readers!

Good Morning Readers,

Today all I have to say is be yourself and don't let others judge you. Honestly if you let peoples thoughts affect you, you will just fall into a negative mindset. I have ran into this problem recently, I surrounded myself with negative people and they tried to put down and make me notice my flaws. I began to feel crazy. (figuratively speaking, my mental state is okay) I let their thoughts about me affect me and I started to be who they were describing, over thinker and sensitive. So my only message to you is just be yourself because no matter how much you change someone will still judge you and want you to change, its the hard truth. Just do what makes you happy, this life is yours, not theirs!

Be youself.

Today my lesson to my readers is to be yourself, no matter what others tell you or how they make you feel. I have been learning in my first year of college what a real friend is. There are people you think are your friends because they hang out with you, they are nice people and you like them. But wait a minute, these people constantly make you feel bad about yourself and who you are. I've encountered a number of these "friends" this year. Let me help you before you make these mistakes too! First, You have to accept the fact that you are not perfect, you have flaws and you make mistakes. You are human, its normal. But, you also have to know what kind of person you want to be and be confident in your identity. Second, take a step back from your "friend" group and ask yourself if you want to be like them-do you have the same goals as them?- If you answer is no I do not want to be like these people. That's when you know you are hanging out with the wrong people. Lastly, a true friend. A true friend is someone who has also accepted their own flaws and mistakes but they move on. These people that are confident in who they believe they and who they want to be. They accept their flaws. These are the greatest friends. They don't judge. They don't bring you down when they are down and most of all they make you feel happy. Spending time with these friends won't leave you feeling down or questioning yourself. This rule also applies to love relationships too! Surround yourself with people that make you happy, bring adventure to your life and share the same goals as you.    The imperfect, the dreamers, the curious, the artists, the writers, the travelers and the adventurous.    These are the true friends in life!

Bon jour readers, I want to first start this blog fresh with a little update on my life. I have started college, I am now in my second semester. I cheer here at my university on the coed team. I am majoring in International Business and Marketing Sales with a minor in French. ( That's why I started with a french twist) I plan to move to New York either after sophomore year, or when I graduate. So, if any of my readers have made a transition like so please comment or email me, I'd love some input and advice! Here is my email: alyssawaid13@gmail.com. Feel free to email me other questions too! I am going to focus this blog on the simple things I love, as well as any thoughts I may have! I want to keep a positive vibe. I'll try my best to post daily or every other day, but please bear with me! That is a little update with my life and I am excited to start blogging again. Thank you!  

I want to start this blog back up, but give me a couple weeks to get things up and running! I want to wait for my semester to settle down a bit before I take on too much. I know I don't have many followers yet but my new goal is to get my numbers up. Be patient friends!!

Side note

I also want to apologize for not posting in awhile, I just graduated high school and signed up for classes, so things have been hectic the past few months!!!!! So I will try to post at least once or twice a week♥

Toodles♥♥♥

Fashion in the streets

      Okay, I absolutely love love this whole picture!!!!!!
First off look at the outfit, it's so perfect. It mixes a casual top with a super fancy ball gown skirt. Also her hair is messy but chic and the sunglasses just tie in the whole attitude of the outfit. This style is why I love fashion! Fashion gives you the power to bring a uniqueness to the world around you. You can mix anything you want and it could start a trend! Second thing, this woman is wearing this outfit on the streets of what looks like Rome or Paris, this is another thing about fashion I love, you can stand out where ever you are. Although I say that, fashion isn't a ticket to be a attention whore (excuse me for that) but it gives you the opportunity to wear what you want. I love putting on a good outfit because it makes me have a better day because I feel more confident. One of my favorite quotes is from, of course, Coco Chanel.

"Fashion is in the sky, its in the street, fashion has to do with ideas,the way we live, what is happening."
                                                                   -Coco Chanel

This quote couldn't be more on point, its so true if you think deeply about it. Fashion is every where, fashion is influenced by society and the world around us. We find fashion through people and culture, it can be changed dramatically whereas some things in fashion will never change. Everyday you wake up you have the opportunity to do something great, why not look good doing it♥♥♥

Xoxo
Alyssa

Outfit of the day

Dress-Kohl's
Boots-Kohl's

Sorry I haven't posted in awhile! I haven't really thought of any good posts. I will be attending DECA this weekend and I will be sure to take pictures of my outfits for you guys. It's a business student organization so I will have some cute dressy outfits! Talk to you all soon♥

-xoxo. Alyssa

My outlook on love♥

     Now my concept of love may be very different from yours for a couple of different reasons, such as I am a teenager and everyone's experiences are different. Although I feel like I have a good grasp on the idea of it all. Being that I am in high school I see all the girls fall "in love" time and time again, I myself have even been "in love." The saddest part about high school love is it means nothing, not in all cases but most. Girls say I love you because they think they do but they don't even know the full concept of being in love, that means being there for that person at any time putting there needs before yours. Guys usually just say I love you because, well, we know why! Now don't get me wrong this isn't true for everyone, this is just my personal opinion.
     Another thing that I believe influences love today is social media, girls are always in a competition with one another. Clothes , boys and popularity, its in our nature! Today girls post pictures with there boyfriends, tweet about their love life's and post their relationship status everywhere. I personally feel like it affects the single girls because they get the idea that they need someone to feel happy. They look at their friends posts and feel empty. I also feel like we are always looking for love, as soon as we are out of a relationship we immediately look for someone to fill the lost space. Why do we do that to ourselves? Why is it so hard to just be free and young?! In high school it is awful, girls can't be single for a minute, that includes "talking." It's tough though because when you are young and you find someone that makes you happy, you automatically believe it is love.
         That is where I think society is wrong, we are all always searching for love when in reality love isn't supposed to be found. Love is supposed to just happen when you least expect it. Trust me, that kid you want to ask you to prom so badly because you think he is the "one", is probably not the love of your life especially because you barely know the guy and he hasn't even talked to you before. We all expect too much from love, we set too high of standards. Instead of looking for love we should let it find us. If there is one thing those cheesy love movies have taught us, it is to find love when you least expect to.
     So stop looking for the perfect person to fall in love with! Be yourself, do what makes you happy and you will come across a love you won't even realize until you look back on it. Let it all happen on its own, don't set the bar too high. I hope some of you agree with my concept and leave me your thoughts on love in the comments. Remember, let love find you♥

            Xoxo, Alyssa

My team♥